Trust, once broken, is difficult to repair! A man recently took to Reddit to ask for some advice on a difficult situation he found himself in. During a Christmas dinner with their relatives, his wife outed their daughter’s sexuality against her wishes, leaving him also heartbroken.
In the post [now removed] on the Am I The A**hole platform, the dad with the username @appropriate-Site11127, told how their daughter, 15, had come out to them as bisexual and pleaded with them to keep it a secret, as she wasn’t ready to tell anyone else.
The man’s daughter came out as bisexual and urged them [her parents] to keep it a secret for now.
The man said in his post: “Our daughter came out to us that she was bisexual and was attracted to one of her friends. She told us that she didn’t want to tell anyone else in the family. I let her know that I would always be supportive of her relationships and wanted her to be happy. My wife has been having trouble accepting the thought of our daughter dating girls.”
“We were asked to host Christmas this year, and all of my wife’s family came to visit. My parents came and my brother and SIL with their two kids. During dinner, everyone was talking about new things that were happening with their lives, and my wife asked if everyone would be supportive of a gay relationship.”
But the man’s wife had trouble with the thought of their daughter dating girls, so she outed her at Xmas dinner.
“My family was quite supportive of everything and kept quiet. My wife’s parents and sister made some small comments as they are very religious and old-fashioned. My wife then tells everyone my daughter’s big news that she was bisexual.” This resulted in an outrage, and his wife’s family urged the teen to be sent to a conversion camp.
He added that his daughter hurriedly left the table and spent the rest of the night in her room. And when the relatives finally let, the man revealed he yelled at his wife for outing their daughter in front of everyone, but then she didn’t see a problem with what she had done. He concluded: “My wife yelled back that she couldn’t contain the secret and wanted the family to be aware.”
It resulted in an outrage, and his wife’s relatives urged the teen to be sent to a conversion camp.
“The fighting went on for the rest of the evening until my wife told me I was sleeping on the couch. I will be sleeping on the couch for the night and will talk to my daughter in the morning.” Hundreds of people have since reacted in the comments, with many urging the man to divorce his wife without hesitation. A few branded his wife a 100% a**hole as she did what her daughter asked her not to.
One person commented: “For me, this is divorce material. Her mother just broke her trust in such a big way she will never, and I mean ever, trust her again. My mother told every secret I ever told her to the point I don’t ever tell her anything anymore. Not even that I got fast food. She still outs me to everyone she meets like my queerness has to be public knowledge.”
When the relatives left, the man confronted his wife, but she saw nothing wrong with what she had done.
Another said: “Your wife is 100% the a**hole. She literally did something your daughter asked her not to do. On so many levels, this is a breach of trust and potentially the start of a strained mother-daughter relationship. You were in the right.” A third stated: “If my wife did that to our daughter (she wouldn’t), I would be filing for divorce first thing in the morning (and she would deserve it).”