20 Couple Therapists Share Relationship Red Flags And Its Eye Opening
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You might even want to make a mental checklist on these things. Marriage counselors and couple therapists are people who’ve seen people during their worst in a relationship. Some could be saved, but there are just those who are better off elsewhere, separately.
There are unique cases, but years of experience allow these experts to boil things down into simple concepts that anyone can learn from. Respect, communication, and love are key to a lasting relationship. On the other hand, here are the keys to breaking it.
IFS reported that the US’s divorce rate reached an all-time low in 2019 at 14.9 per 1000 married people compared to 19.8 in 2010. It seems that headlines and news are making it that being stuck 24/7 to your partner, even during work time, will make arguments heat up even more. But experts predicted that 2020 would see more decline in this.
University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project director Wilcox said, “No doubt, some of this decline can be attributed to the fact that some couples had difficulty getting divorces amidst the lockdowns.”
“But I also think the pandemic is making plenty of couples develop a new appreciation for their spouse and the merits of staying married.”
Wilcox explained that despite the fact that about a third of marriages faced traumas during the 2020 pandemic lockdown, it has also allowed them to grow even more in their relationship. It was these “tough and traumatic times” that “lead to growth, strength, joy, and self-improvement rather than the opposite.”
Couples learned how to appreciate their partners even more during these trying times. Whether that’s tutoring the kids or grocery shopping, it helped them “develop a new appreciation for how much we depend upon our spouse.”
Then what about the ones that did not last? Would it make sense to blame the pandemic on the end of their relationship? Wilcox recalls what a divorced man from Texas said: “My marriage had preexisting conditions, and COVID killed it.”
Wilcox agreed that the lockdown may have stopped couples from taking the definitive act of ending their marriage. This is also coupled with the fact that people are taking their time before the tie the knot. The lowering marriage rate is also a factor that affect the divorce rate.