Relationship
‘You Will Never Change Your Spouse, Ever!’: Man In A 20-Year Marriage Shares 10 Things He Had Learned
“It’s absolutely nuts to think we have been together this long.”
Let’s celebrate love in all its form, shape, and age. Seeing it from a biological perspective, love is not something that will stay for a long time. When you’re in love, a burst of dopamine and serotonin are released to your brain. Simply thinking about your crush could make you feel all giddy and fluttery.
Everything seemed alright – but 10 years, 20 years later, will things stay?
You’ve heard of people saying that love is a literal illusion because when you only know who that person is after you’re married to them. You’ve probably even heard that “it is never really love if you lost it.”
A man who’ve been married for 20 years decided to share what he’s learned from his relationship with his wife.
Every marriage is different. What made you fall in love with your partner might be different from others. How you decide to keep that love ember burning differs from others. Not to mention some people may decide to have kids, or not, or adopt some themselves.
Not to mention that just because everything is fine after 10 years doesn’t mean it’ll be fine forever.
As time goes by, age will also turn into a hurdle.
You love them not for the prospect of who they might become in the future but for who they are now.
The ‘lessons’ have been upvoted more than 5.6k times on Imgur with over 600 comments.
Many people share their inputs under the Imgur post. Most took it from their experience of being married and some from their failed relationships. But a majority of them approve of the man’s personal takes when it comes to nurturing a successful, long-lasting marriage filled with love.
Several shared their own opinions based on their own marriage.
Some people point out the importance of communication unless you have the ability to read someone’s mind. Always admit that you’re two different individuals with different hobbies, backgrounds, and brains. Naturally, not even twins can sync their minds at 100% uptime.
Others tell others what NOT to do in a marriage, i.e., having unrealistic expectations, speaking out of anger, and forcing someone to stay.
