30 Women Reveal ‘Something A Man Did That Made You Realize You’ve Been Accepting Too Little From Men’
There are indeed still some good men out there.
If there’s anything @Rosesmaddox wants you to know and practice, it’s definitely the advice that you shouldn’t settle for average men. The 22-year-old is married to her husband, Drake, and says he’s proof there are good men out there. She spoke in response to the question, “What is something a man has done for you that made you realize you’ve been accepting and expecting way too little from men?” by TikToker @Ayandastood.
@Ayandastood [pictured] launched the conversation, urging women to describe how a man has made them raise their standards.
And without holding back, Rose listed the many ways in which Drake has prioritized her happiness from the time they were dating until now, including supporting her career and bringing her flowers/gifts if she’s having a challenging time.
In her TikTok, Rose explained: “I’ve been with my fiancé since I was 15.” I’m 22 now, and we got engaged in May. Here are some of the things he does that made me want to marry him. I used to drive an old 2002 Hyundai Santa Fe with no heating, no air, and no music, and he would let me drive his car to work and he would take mine to his work so that I could listen to music and have air conditioning, since my drive was two minutes longer.”
When the pair goes to the restaurant, Rose said Drake often asks what her top two choices are of entrees and that whatever she doesn’t order, he orders so that if she doesn’t like her meal, he can switch around.
When she also tells him she’s having a bad day, Drake comes home from work with either flowers, ingredients to make her a meal, or some sort of gift.
Rose added: “Right now, he works nine to five, and I’m finishing up my last year of college, so I’m bearing a lot of the housework, but any time that he comes and he sees that I’ve cleaned something, he points to it and he says: “Thank you for doing that.” She’s been teaching spin classes for about over a year, and Drake regularly shows up so that when she looks into the bikes, she would have someone to make eye contact with and feel confident while teaching.
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Drake, 23, is allegedly not the drinking or outing type yet he often drops Rose off and picks her up without complaint and without any sort of jealousy when she goes for an outing.
She concluded: “And like I said, we’ve been dating since I was 15, so I set these expectations when I was young, the way I wanted to be treated, and he has always met and exceeded them.” So, if you think your standards are too high, you’re just looking in the wrong places. “There are people out there that want to meet and exceed that standard and love you in a way that you could have never imagined.”
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Speaking to BuzzFeed, Rose said she was inspired to make the video after about 100 examples of the kindness Drake shows her entered her mind. She explained: “I wanted to share [and honestly] brag about my other half being a light to this world and that everyone should be with someone who makes them feel so proud to be their significant other.”
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The TikToker claimed Drake’s kindness isn’t limited to just their relationship – he shares it with every person in his world.
“It’s exemplified in his mannerisms, words, and actions.” He leaves every place he enters happier, kinder and more joyous. Be with someone so great that people who have never met you hope so dearly that you give the same that your significant others give to the world.” Rose’s TikTok has been viewed over 12milllion times, and many people were left shocked that men like Drake still exist.
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However, Here’s What Other Women Responded With:
“The words “I will ALWAYS take your side in front of others”, fam what.”
“He said “you don’t have to apologize for not being in the mood” when I kept saying sorry and explaining why.”
“I met my husband & commented that my contacts were dry. Next time I saw him he brought eye drops. He’s raised the bar so high over the last 12 yrs.”
“So this one time, me and my boyfriend were having an argument we’d been together for a while. But we were having this argument and it was just over stupid stuff, blown way out of proportion. We both had to just like walk away for a minute, just cool off.
And the next day we’re kind of trying to like talk things out or whatever, and I was just desperately trying to say, like, “I’m so sorry.” “I’m sorry. I acted that way.” “I’m sorry. It was crazy.” “I, this is why I think I am this way.” “This is my explanation for who I am as a person” and he kind of stopped me. And he was like “Babe, you realize like you’re allowed to feel however you feel right?
You know that right?” Hm. You know? No, I did not.”
“When he detaches from cuddling, he says “ok I’m turning over now” instead of silently pushing away.”
“He didnt question when i said no lol.”
“My father always told me: If a man wants to, he finds a way. If he makes excuses he’s not worth your time.”
“He didn’t laugh at me when I get scared in horror movies, he helps me cover my eyes so I can cover my ears, he tells me when it’s safe to look again.”
“When I fall asleep on him, he always takes my glasses off and puts them on his bedside table.”
“What is something a man did for you that made you realize that you’ve been accepted? Okay. So, I have had this weird quirk ever since I was a little girl, very little. I would wake up in the middle of the night, like two or three, sometimes four in the morning to go downstairs to the kitchen and get a green apple.
And I would eat that apple half asleep and then go back to bed. I have been doing. Ever since I can remember like six or seven years old up until now in my thirties. I just, anyway, when Steven and I, my husband, my now husband, and I were first together, literally 10 years ago, we were probably on our fourth date.
And, um, I had told him about this quirk of mine and he thought it was funny and cute or whatever. Anyway, he invited me back to his apartment to watch a movie with him and we still hadn’t slept together or anything at the time. And I was like, okay, sure. But don’t try anything funny. He’s like, of course not.
So we go back and we watch some like European. F**king an indie film. I can’t remember what it was called, but, um, we watched the movie and it’s getting late and I’m getting tired and I’m like, you know, I’m really tired. He’s like, yeah, you should probably sleep over. And I was like, okay. I, well remember, it’s like the fourth date.
And I was like, okay, but don’t try anything. Cause I, you know, I really wanted to take things nice and slow with him. And um, and he was like, of course, of course, that, of course not. So, um, so I got to sleep in his bed and I wake up around like, maybe three in the morning, and our turn and he’s not there. And I thought that was really weird.
Like where is he? And then, um, I go back to sleep and then I wake up again around like four and, um, and there’s a green apple next to my bedside. And, um, I grabbed it and I eat it. And I was sleeping next to me and I woke up in the morning and he tells me that he woke up at like two or three in the morning and he realized that he didn’t have any apples.
And so you wanted to make sure when I woke up in the middle of the night that I had my apple, and so he went out at like two in the morning, he went to the first, uh, like seven 11, and they didn’t have any apples. So, he had to go to like two or three different stores to find something that was open that had green apples.
And he finally around the second or third gas station found an apple. And brought it back. And, um, so I would wake up to an apple and, uh, yeah, that’s 10 years later. We’re still together.”
“When he made my problems his. He cried with me when I cried. Laughed with me when I laughed.”
“He doesn’t get uncomfortable when I cry, but actually pulls me closer and wipes my tears. A few weeks in to dating, I had a panic attack talking about.”
“I’m a flight attendant and he’s a private pilot. We live in different states. This man used his own plane to fly up and see me for our first date.”
“He’s paid my bills multiple times and never ever brings it up. he’s forgotten he has. it’s not something he holds over me.”
“Non-sexual physical touch. He kisses my hand when we part from each other, holds my hands. Ngl I cried inside.”
“He suggested we play a game to get to know each other and he actually asked me real questions. Nothing sexual. It’s been awesome.”
“He respected my boundaries.”
“When he drove all the way to give me cuddles at 3 AM bc I was stressed. That’s when I knew.”
“He cooks dinner for me all the time, surprises me with little gifts or dates, always wants to talk about how to make the relationship better.”
“He was upset. I didn’t ask for his help. When me and my husband were dating, I had trouble keeping up with a car payments. I told him nothing. I eventually had to return this vehicle and when he found out… When I tell you this man was upset and it just… he didn’t understand why I didn’t ask him for help.
He was livid you all, like, it just did not make sense to him how I would not think to say anything. And that’s when I realized I had been accepting too much less, like, I didn’t want to ask, because I was used to booboo’s who would make me feel like I was a gold digger or something, and not just a girl that just needed help.
And, um, that’s also when I realized my husband was the greatest man I ever met.”
“When he took accountability for doing something I did not like, apologized and changed his actions.”
“No man did anything; I just watched this TikTok and realized wow I’ve been excepting so much less than minimum for years now.”
“This is sad but a guy was working late + he communicated he wouldn’t be able to take me out for dinner and sent dinner to my home instead.”
“When I calmly asked him not to do something that upset me and he heard me out instead of getting upset and telling me I was being unreasonable.”
“He actually walked up to my door, knocked, & waited for me to be ready instead of just texting me that he’s here & sitting in his car”
“Physical affection. Also once, I told him “Not tonight” and he said “okay,” held me and went to sleep.”
“He asked me if he could kiss me. It was so simple but thoughtful. Until then guys had just started grabbing and kissing me aggressively.”
“My medical and physical disabilities weren’t a big deal to him.”
“He has a bad memory, so he writes all my likes and dislikes in his notes, so he can always remember…”
“When I isolate due to my depression and he tells me, I want to hear how you feel.” You don’t have to do this alone anymore.”