It looks like some people don’t know how to appreciate others for who they are. This viral Reddit post has got people to share the weird things people have asked them to change. From clothing preferences to their whole personality, the things these people share are beyond us.
It’s hard to believe that men like this exist because the audacity they have to have to pull it off is unfathomable. Yet here we are, hearing about how some men ask their partners to literally not cry.
“He didn’t want me to cry. Ever. “The women in my family would never cry unless their arm was being sawed off at the time.” Twenty some years later, I realized he should have married his sister.” – sqqueen
“I’m very pale, so pale that you can see the blue of my veins throughout most of my body. A boyfriend I had about ten years ago asked if there was “anything I could do to get rid of them?” I had to explain that no, I had a circulatory system and very much wanted to remain alive.” – calcitemerged
“My ex-bf wanted me to get tattoos, get gauges, pierce my n**ples, and start doing a lot of drugs because iT’d Be So hOt. He also wanted me to change my demeanor from upbeat to brooding and moody. That kind of happened naturally with him anyway because he was so soul-suckingly awful to be around.
Ironically, when I broke up with him, he cried for months and wouldn’t stop telling me how he hated that I was so cold and moody to him lol he missed the old me he had tried so hard to change. Toxic people, man!” – petite-crevette
“My past. He was appalled to find out an ex of mine was Jewish.” – PeacefulTofu
“My whole personality. This dude (admittedly, very shallow looking back, but I was so naive then) told me straight up that I was cute but I’d be better off without the personality because “it’s a bit much.” He didn’t like that I liked to laugh and joke around and such. He basically wanted me to just become an accessory. Shut up and look pretty. Yeah, nah I got tf outta there.” – hauntedmilktea
“My last partner tried to make me change my willingness to be cheated on. she thought I should be ‘open to the idea.'” – coolaira16
“How much time it took me to have an orgasm lol. Like as if it in my control.” – Thin-Commercial-2380
“My ex told me I needed to start pretending I didn’t understand things even when I did, bc “men like explaining things to women.” The ex before him basically told me I was malfunctioning bc I didn’t want to be a SAHM, and he asked me to never fart in front of him bc ‘women don’t poop.'” – Lumpy_Constellation
“To not have more tattoos than him at any point. So when I wanted my second, and he only had the one, he expected me to wait until he got a second tattoo first.
I’m guessing it had something to with his weird hang-up on masculinity. I didn’t listen and got my second while we were dating. He didn’t say or do anything about it.” – Shallow-ishPuddle
“He wanted me to get bigger bo*bs. I’m happy with my B cup, thank you **shole. I dumped his *ss.” – Egyptianqueen123
“‘You’re too nice; you need to stop that.’ Said every time I gave money or food to a panhandler or charity, any time I expressed compassion for someone who wasn’t him, and especially when we were watching George W Bush’s invasion of Iraq, and I was horrified at all the Iraqi people dying.
F**k you Mike, the struggle is real, and I’m gonna be nice to as many people as I can because none of us decided to be here.” – insertcaffeine
“My college boyfriend said I could “stand to lose a few.” I wish he could see me now…I am so much fatter lol. No, but really I looked great, and he was a dweeb.” – yournationaltreasure
“They wanted me to be the person I was before my best friend unexpectedly died.” – CaffeineHamster
“He wanted me to distance myself from my family mainly because he wasn’t close to his family and didn’t have that kind of support.
He picked me up on Thanksgiving to have lunch with his mom. He promised we would go together to my family’s Thanksgiving at dinner. Evening rolled around, and he proclaimed he was too tired to go and refused to drive me the whole 25 minutes to my grandpa’s house. When I didn’t show up my family freaked out, and my siblings came to get me. My brother asked my boyfriend what happened, and he couldn’t come up with an answer other than he was tired. Later he posted online my brother tried to fight him haha. Dumped him that night! I would have left him sooner, but I was young and dumb!” – wandwish
“Me having Asperger’s, and he was a doctor too. When we started dating he was obsessed with how I was ‘the smartest person he’d ever met’ then he tried to get me off my meds because he didn’t believe in them and didn’t understand sensory meltdowns, then when we broke up, he said “I tried to fix you, but I failed’
lol ok ‘doctor’ good luck with that cure for autism.” – ariz0napi3z
“He told me I had to become okay with him messing around with other women, and be okay with my partners doing that in general if we broke up, because I was never going to be validating enough to him or any other man, so they would always need to seek it elsewhere.
We are not together anymore. I’m plenty validating to any guy who isn’t a bottomless pit of insecurity.” – SlippyNippyN00ps
“He thought my laugh could be more “ladylike,” because as long as I had a witch cackle, he wouldn’t “be able to take me anywhere high-class.”
He was flat broke at the time, and I was paying for everything. I also sound different depending on how hard I’m laughing, so it’s not like I had to break out the witch laugh at all these imaginary restaurants and balls we were totally going to attend. Didn’t matter, he wanted me to train myself out of it anyway.” – mylatestphase
“Asked me to be more “agreeable” and not discuss feminist issues in his presence. This winner also told me I needed to lose about 40 pounds because women shouldn’t weigh more than 120. For context, I’m 5’9″ and at the time was wearing a size 6. I noped out of that relationship pretty quick.” – lost_throwaway_3326
“In high school, my then-bf told me I wasn’t allowed to wear clothes from Forever 21 or Ross because that was “ghetto” and he wanted me to wear A&F, Hollister, and AEO….as if I had the money. Took me a couple of years to realize what a f**king loser he was.” – Crownedone21
“Him: You shouldnt wear makeup;
Me: Why, whats the problem? Lots of women wear makeup;
Him: My mom doesn’t.” – sof-i-a
“Nothing. I’m perfect. /s
In all seriousness, he asked me to pretend I wasn’t in pain when I was. I have endometriosis, and if I’m dating you, you will have an up-close and personal seat into the life of someone with a chronic pain condition.
Now, I don’t complain a lot about it, it’s just a fact of my life, and I came to terms with it a long time ago. So when my ex-fiancé got “fed up” with me “being sick all the time,” I told him I can’t act healthy all the time when I’m sometimes in debilitating pain….and he said, ‘Can’t you fake it?’” – schmicklebutt
“My former spouse asked me to move my period because it fell on his three-day weekend, and he refused to have sex with me when I was “broken” so that was a real bummer for him. I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him, but he wouldn’t even ask and I suspect it’s because he knew no one liked him enough.” – tooterfish80
“The amount of men that ask me to come off antidepressants because “don’t I make you happy enough without the pills.” Lord, give me patience.” – PandaConspiracy4000
“I had a partner ask me to gauge my ears so that I could “fit his aesthetic more.” Safe to say that relationship was short-lived. LMAO.” – Bubblegum_B-tch
“Dated a girl who wanted me to be “more masculine” cos she thought I looked more attractive that way. Got rid of her. Dated a trans man who wanted me to be “more feminine.” Got rid of him too. I’m non-binary and how I choose to dress is for me and not them.” – tiredofyobulls**t
“I’m mixed half Indian half German and he asked to suppress my Indian side and culture cuz he ‘only dated me cuz at least I’m half.'” – Successful-Painter87
“Said I used “too many big words” and he just wanted to be able to “relax” more. Criticized my tv and movie preferences as being too “cerebral.” Also told me I was too “analytical” in how I liked to solve problems. Now I have an MA and JD, and married a tech millionaire with a Ph.D. in theoretical physics, so looks like my preference for cerebral entertainment and big words paid off.” – FuzzyJury
“I got a tattoo of a keyhole on my chest above my heart and dude flipped out about it and cried. HE CRIED. I don’t even remember why he was crying; he really didn’t like the fact that I put more ink on myself… I just remember thinking holy sh** this dude is f**king crazy.” – aMAEzingly
“He wanted me to be shorter. I’m 5’1. He literally wanted me to hunch my shoulders and only wear f**king flats all the time. He was 5’3 and insecure lmaoooo.” – gator–wave
“Told me I was too anxious and depressed, and I just needed to be “happy” lol I was on birth control for him too (refused to wear a condom) which caused a lot of these mental health issues. After breaking up, got off the pill + the lack of his presence in my life made me significantly happier. Also, he told me I couldn’t take a joke even though his “jokes” were degrading and humiliating me in front of his friends.” – lunarhoe411