‘My Boyfriend’s Shocked At How Much I Make, Now Wants Me To Pay Half Of His Mortgage’

Should a woman pitch in with paying off the mortgage? A woman shared that she never thought she had to pay off half the mortgage for a house that her boyfriend had picked for them to live in.

But upon finding out that she makes 1.5 of what he does, the boyfriend instantly decided that she should pitch in for half the mortgage. But she disagreed – she proposed paying off the utility bills, groceries, and furnishing the pretty much empty house for them. He disagreed.

AITA for refusing to pay half of my boyfriend’s mortgage?

She later clarified, “I would’ve been happy to pay half of his rent. It’s not about the money. It’s about the principle.”

She added that half of the mortgage that he wanted her to pay is three times her current rent.

It appears that the couple didn’t have the discussion they needed before they agreed on the house. In his defense, he did buy that house before they started dating. Several people also pointed out that she’s still 22 and is years behind when it comes to homeownership and savings.

The majority of the comments supported the woman to stand her principle. Paying for the day-to-day bills is still contributing to the family finances as the house was not the property that considered her thoughts and opinions.

One person wrote, “Yikes. He is demanding you pay for his house, and you guys are only 1.5 years into dating? It sounds a bit like his ego was hurt after learning how much you make, and his retaliation is trying to guilt you into this.”

“Don’t do it. Pay for utilities / monthly mortgage, etc., but do not give him any sway over using all your money as a benefit to him and only him.”

Many people reminded her that it was not worth the risk for her.

Eventually, the author agreed to a suggestion that might just help mediate the situation.

The user commented, “Make up a contract (get it notarized or whatever necessary to legitimize it,) that states if you help pay down his mortgage and should you two break up, he has to buy you out for all the months you helped pay that loan of his down…

“If you get married he signs you into the mortgage, so you’re protected in case of divorce.

“That way, he doesn’t feel like you’re getting a free place to stay while earning a sufficiently larger salary, but you can feel assured that you haven’t been taken advantage of financially if things were to end.”