20 Women Who Gave 'Nice Guys' A Chance Shared Their Stories

20 Women Who Gave ‘Nice Guys’ A Chance Shared Their Stories

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People who call themselves ‘nice’ are usually the kind that is far from that word. You don’t tell others how ‘nice’ you are; it just doesn’t work that way. Nice guys know how to be respectful of people’s boundaries and know how to handle rejections. They won’t attempt to force women into anything in the name of ‘love.’

But there are still women who wanted to give them a chance because humans are capable of changing, right? Well, the reply section of the Reddit thread is just filled with horror stories and nightmares. Avoid man who calls themselves a ‘nice guy.’ Stay safe, out there!



“He became abusive emotionally, I became pregnant, he insisted I keep it. My son is 8 and he’s seen him once.”foundmymark


“Went on and on about what a great, compassionate guy he was. He was actually just your garden variety, abusive psycho. He once said to me: “I wish you had been abused so you would realize how great I am.” What the f**k. Who says that?!”OhNoMyKeys



“We fell in love and got married. I did EVERYTHING for him, cooked, cleaned, did the gardening, took out the bins, sorted all the household stuff like bills and stuff, nursed him after a major surgery, ironed his shirts and made him packed lunches. In return he’d remind me how lucky I was he wasn’t one of those terrible guys who went out drinking all the time and that I was so lucky to have such a nice guy. He left me for a friend of mine and screwed me over financially by taking the bulk of our savings… I’ve now realized I don’t want “nice”, I’ve gotten myself a “bad boy” who also happens to be a “good man”. Sexy and thrilling but with a heart of gold.”Still-Waters-ASMR



“He was a friend of a friend. We went on a date, and it just didn’t click. Last thing I heard from him was a long rant about how immigrants were stealing his chance to get a girlfriend “because girly like being mistreated by evil Muslims, and the nice guy is forever alone”. That’s when I felt like I dodged a bullet.”reddit



“I ended up filing a police report and moving apartments because he didn’t take it well when I broke up with him. He spent hours outside my apartment demanding an explanation because he just couldn’t understand that I didn’t want to be with him anymore. He was convinced someone had talked me into ending it, and if I would just hear him out I’d change my mind. Took 3 visits from the cops and a change of address before he got the message.”jl370



“Met him on Tinder and we went out to eat. He insisted on paying for it since I drove out there. We started dating and I remember thinking about 9 months in that we had never argued (quite opposite of my last relationship). We moved in together and adopted a dog together. The other day, we got in an argument and I realize that we have had arguments, he just actually talks about it instead of yelling. We close on a house and will reach our two-year mark in a few weeks. I’m so glad I went against my normal type. I love him so much.”ThoseWhoHaveHeart



“Dated the ‘nice guy’ of my friend group because he was really interested in me and all my friends wanted me to give him a chance. I endured 6 months of him requesting my location at all times and showing up unannounced and uninvited when I was on nights out. He claimed his behavior was because he ‘had never dated someone as pretty as me’. Never again.”therainandclouds



“Went on two dates. He tried to drop by my work to ‘surprise me’ after the first one. Thought that was weird, but I was 19 and not wise to the ways of the world yet. On the second date, I told him that he seemed nice, but I wasn’t feeling it.

Dude started SCREAMING at me to the extent that strangers had to intervene because he was using foul language and tried to grab my arm. To this day I’m glad I ended whatever that was in a public place, I have no doubt he would have gotten violent if it had been otherwise.”



“Got another girl pregnant, a month before our wedding. But ‘he’s such a nice guy.’Lisags23


“He went out bowling with his friends and then when he came home he complained to me that for the first time in his life a hot girl had hit on him while he was out, and he was unlucky enough to actually have a girlfriend. He seemed genuinely sad he had to turn her down, and expected me to be grateful he did it.”reddit



“I basically only matched with this guy on Tinder because he had a funny picture I wanted to comment on. The conversation was actually very pleasant and he asked me to have coffee. I figured I could use a friend. He was super nice on our date, and even though I didn’t find him attractive originally, him being so nice to me made me interested. I kind of felt like I had seen the light; maybe I should just date someone who is nice to me instead of just going after looks!

Very long story short; I ended up moving to another country for him. He became very controlling, moody, and aggressive. It turned into an abusive relationship (emotionally and physically) and I don’t trust my own judgment anymore.”



“He seemed a bit shy but goofy, smart and genuinely kind when he approached me, so I agreed to go out and we hit it off at first. Deep, meaningful conversation about our personal challenges, him quickly meeting my friends and me being the first person he called after a family emergency. We were both pretty vulnerable, but things were seemingly progressing somewhat well.

One day he was on Tinder in bed next to me and when called on it, he said that dating me had made him realize that he needed more confidence and experience with women and thus needed to date a lot more different people, but that he only f**ked the others at their houses, so I was obviously his no 1. I freaked, cried and broke things off – he called me the next day to casually ask me out to the new ‘Hunger Games’ movie. I got an STD-screening the next week – he harassed me at work for another 6 months.”caffeineawarnessclub


“All the guys I have known or dated that felt it necessary to label themselves “nice guys” turned out to absolutely awful humans. Either they had a bad temper, horrible morals, or just didn’t want to take “no” for an answer. One even turned out to be an emotionally abusive alcoholic.”missunderstood80



“He tried to rape me because I “belonged to him and only him” now. He thought a girlfriend couldn’t say no. I ended up putting him in the hospital.”TiredTigerFighter


“Not well. He was funny and friendly in public but turned into a different person as soon as we were behind closed doors. He was basically your textbook abuser – manipulative, controlling, and demanding. He wanted to do some really weird and degrading (to me) sex stuff and acted like I was the psycho for not wanting to. He’d make angry comments like “I’m just trying to be romantic and YOU keep freaking out.” I got out of the relationship before he could hit or rape me, but no question that was what the future held. Oh, and he still insisted that he was the nicest guy I’d ever meet.”Grawgar



“He was always nice to me but very easily jealous anytime another guy spoke to me. We were just friends and only went out once yet he felt like he needed to make me feel bad whenever other guys gave me a little attention. He also had a horrible drinking problem and serious anger issues. And the whole time he was trying to woo me, he was also hooking up with his ex and ended up getting her pregnant. So yeah, no regrets about that.”lyn90



“He emotionally manipulated me and then cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. Never again.”lilbebe50


“We dated, he was attentive and “not like the other guys.” He wasn’t my type, really, but I HAD been dating people who genuinely treated me poorly, and I thought it was time I made a more mature decision and dated someone with a job, who respected me, etc. He proposed super fast. I married him. Fast forward, he slowly became the most abusive person I have ever known, demanding that I devolve into his sex slave. He was addicted to porn, weed, video games and believed he was “not like other guys.” He was special, according to him. He was more honest, smarter, etc than anyone in the world and I didn’t appreciate him enough. I became a prisoner in my own home; he controlled all the money and my social life. I was miserable. One day he physically attacked me, basically a coercive/physical rape attempt, and I fled my home in panicked fear. He sent me a manifesto email telling me that unless I can submit 100% to his complete sexual control at all times, I was not to come home (to the house we owned together). We’re divorced now. He keeps trying to get me back, he “has changed” and misses me. Nice guys, not even once.”reddit



“Absolutely horrible. Talked big on how he had gone through so much in life and learned so much that he finally got to a point where he considered himself a ‘nice guy.’ Surprise surprise he wasn’t.. Over the 4 times we hung out (casual setting) I went to find out that:

– he had been arrested for punching a guy recently for no reason other than he was ‘clicking his pen too much and wouldn’t stop,’
– the last girl he dated left him because he said some really f**ked up derogatory things to her but HEY! NO WORRIES he’s learned from the past,
– he was clingy and possessive and looked down on women who had multiple sexual partners,
– he left a girl at the movie theatre late at night alone because she was boring,

I NOOOOPED the hell out of that situation, but he continues to message me and hound me and beg me to give him a chance after I have told him repeatedly to leave me alone. The guy is 25 years old and acts like a 12-year-old.”



“Had a “nice guy” on Tinder who didn’t make it to date for the following reason.

He lived in a different city so he insisted on an all-day date (lives about 50 mins away). I said I’m not comfortable subscribing to 8+ hours with someone I hadn’t met yet, but he kept insisting I had to make it worth his while to come through. At this point I said I can’t see it going anywhere and it was putting me under pressure and that made me feel a little uncomfortable, that realistically, it may not work out so let’s just leave it.

So then he says he’s gonna book a hotel and come through. Explained that’s sweet but it’s making me uncomfortable. So he says I can have the bed and hell be a gentleman and have the sofa… I explained that he seems to have the wrong idea, I’m not going to a hotel with him and I feel uncomfortable, I don’t want to meet. He continues to press, saying he is nice guy, he won’t make me have sex if I don’t want to. I say I don’t want to. I don’t want to go to a hotel. I don’t want to meet. It’s too much pressure, and for someone I’ve not met, I feel uneasy, thanks, good luck with your search…

But apparently, I need to give him a chance. He’s willing to come all this way. I say no. He keeps finding new things to message me. Uses my phone number to add my snap chat and says he can see what street I’m on. At this point, I start feeling very uneasy. I didn’t know I had location on. I block him. He messaged on something else so I say I’ve got back with my ex. ( I see my ex a lot, we are good friends, he’s happy to “have a word”) so he starts going on about my ex had his chance and blew it, he is a much nicer guy than my ex, he will treat me like a princess and worship me and my ex has blown it, etc etc. I tell him this is my choice. Thanks and goodbye. Please don’t try to message me on anything else as it’s not appropriate and I’ve already blocked 3 things.

Fast forward 4 months and I move cities. I get an Instagram message. It’s the nice guy saying he’s seen me on Bumble in this new city and even though we haven’t matched it must not have worked out with my ex. He’s using Instagram and can see I’m near the station (Is that even a thing?!) And we should go on that date that I owe him.

Blocked again. Had a friend stay over that night.”