The pretty privilege says that you are treated differently by people thanks to your appearance. People seem to favor you more compared to unattractive women and may even consider you as a kind person despite having never seen you before. But this is just one among so many problems that unattractive women face.
And we all know that ‘unattractive’ may just be the crude word for average and ordinary. These women shared on Reddit what it’s like to live a life where your appearance is not up to certain people’s beauty standards. To be honest, they are heartbreaking, and something really needs to be done.
“People constantly trying to fix me. My aunty asked me how I was going to get a man with a body like mine and my dressing style. Mind you, she is pushing 50 with no man, but OK.” – Forsaken-Vermicelli3
“When someone does genuinely find you attractive, and you think it’s a joke.” – taco_h0e
“Empathy and sympathy. People want to comfort you when you’re the cute, pretty crier, protect you. I rarely see ugly people being the face of depression or mental illness on social media.
Not so much when you’re ugly. It’s kind of just awkward.” – PikaBooSquirrel
“Unsolicited weight loss/health advice (that is often wrong and does not consider my health at all) and unsolicited advice on how to be attractive to men.” – loalenatrice
“That no matter how often your significant other tells you that you’re beautiful, you constantly compare yourself to more attractive women and feel that you’ll never be enough.” – Warai-Kitten
“People thinking that you don’t have the right to like yourself or thinking that your confidence is ‘brave.’ F**k off.” – GettingThere1212
“Spending ages trying to dress up nicely only to go outside and realize that everyone else is still a million times more attractive than you.” – Ethereal-Glow
“Being invisible next to your friends. They’re all having fun, and you just sit there, and no one is talking to you.” – khajiitidanceparty
“If a skinny, pretty girl dresses super casual with no effort, it’s cute and trendy, but if I do it, I’m lazy and don’t care about my looks.” – loalenatrice
“I was treated differently than my attractive friends. People were less helpful to me, left me out of everything (especially photos), and only wanted me around when it suited them.” – Ethereal-Glow
“That you should be grateful that any man wants to sleep with you, and it’s selfish to think that you deserve to be in a relationship with respect. I’m apparently fine to sleep with, but heaven forbid they take me outside the house and be seen with me even if they themselves aren’t conventionally attractive.” – bbbbbbb9999
“I’m not ugly, but I’ve been overweight. Most men assumed that I was going to be an easy f*** and that I was a promiscuous woman because ‘fat women have no self-esteem and seek validation with s*x'” – _Lilith_89
“Oh, I’m excited for this one. I’m pretty attractive, I get hit on regularly – I’m attractive enough to appeal to a wide swathe of individuals, but not so attractive as to be intimidating.
But I wasn’t always, for five years I was fat because of medication. Last year, I got super toned and lost weight when I went off the meds. I’m now training for competitive powerlifting. I was cute before I gained the weight, but somehow, my thirties have been amazing – this weight loss left me with anime eyes and cut cheekbones, a look I’ve never had before.
I am treated better in every facet of my life, and it has given me genuine body dysmorphia that I have been in therapy for. Men offer me free things, they constantly hit on me; women ask for advice constantly, and all ANYONE wants to discuss is how I look, which is the least interesting f**king thing about me.
Pretty privilege and thin privilege are absolutely real, and the worst part is finding out that my biggest fear – that I was worthless to society when I weighed more – was absolutely f**king true. Thanks, society, for the super awesome body dysmorphia you have now given me.
What’s interesting is that I spent so many years in the shadows that I have zero interest in coming out of them anymore, but just like when I was fat, people think they have some sort of right to discuss my appearance blatantly. It’s disgusting, and all it does is show how incredibly undervalued women are for anything other than our looks.” – thedjmk
“People being rude to you, especially men. If they’re not attracted to you, then you don’t deserve respect nor decency.” – dontbesuspecious1
“Fewer job opportunities. Attractiveness plays a part in getting hired.” – marymoon77
“When I was fat, they would hit on my significant other right in front of me. When I’m slim, they look at him and immediately look at the floor and walk away.” – catniagara
“As a fat woman: not being able to go to 90% of my doctor’s visits without my weight being brought up. I mean, that’s fine in a checkup or physical, but if I go in because I have a sinus infection, I don’t really feel the need to discuss how fat I am right at that moment unless it’s somehow going to clear up my sinus infection.” – Electronic-Cow7250
“Sometimes I feel bad for my partner, thinking he’s embarrassed or could do better.” – Sensitiverock85
“It’s a lot harder in the office. Women have a hard enough time rising to higher ranks or being taken seriously, but it’s very annoying when the pretty women are taken more seriously. Heck, same is true for men. Good looks win jobs.” – Nancy2421
“I lost a lot of weight after getting married & you’d be surprised how many people have said to me “Awww, he loved you for what you were on the inside!” The implication of course being he didn’t find me attractive before but for some reason pursued me anyway – girl, what?” – Cyclibant