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Woman’s ‘Sterilization Photo Shoot’ Went Viral And Prompted Discussions About Women Choosing Child-Free Lives
“There were times I went home crying.”
We love celebrating with our friends and family members who made their pregnancy announcements. And at the same time, we also celebrate women like Abby Ramsay, who finally got a hold of their life’s reins with sterilization.
Abby ended up explaining her medical reasons, even when she shouldn’t have to. But in short, Abby has a long history of hereditary issues from ovarian cancer that her grandmother died from, kidney cancer to mental issues, and she last updated that her doctor was checking in to see if she has BPD or autism.
Los Angeles actress Abby has gone viral after she shared her excitement of finally finding a doctor that said yes to her request.
The 24-year-old’s clip had over 3.8 million views with thousands congratulating her. Abby’s cheek-in-tongue photoshoot had her opening a box that reads “Congratulations” on the side to reveal the paperwork of her surgeries.
@abbysworldsastage I’m excited to take control of my own body. I’m not a baby maker. #childfree #childfreebychoice #sterilization #celebration ♬ abcdefu (angrier) – GAYLE
Abby receives a combination of bilateral salpingectomy with endometrial ablation to get the most guaranteed results. The first procedure removes both fallopian tubes, which are the routes eggs take to reach the ovary. The subsequent procedure removes the endometrium lining, which is where sterilized eggs hang on.
Abby’s procedures were also covered by her insurance, which was her father’s insurance, and out of the $116,000 bill, she only had to pay $1,000 out of pocket.
“Having a supportive partner is also optional,” she jokingly added in her video.
Abby shared that many of the doctors she went to refused, reasoned that she was too young and might regret her decisions.
“One said she didn’t believe in performing ‘unnecessary surgery’ and said she was against things like plastic surgery, too,” she mentioned another. “The third doctor I ever saw basically insinuated that there was something wrong with me for not wanting children and said I needed to go to therapy to get my brain fixed so I could have kids someday.”
But for Abby, even if she might regret it in the future, she doesn’t think it would be as bad as regretting it when she has her own children.
“I think a lot of people ignore the fact that sometimes people regret becoming parents,” said Abby. “It’s not uncommon, even if it is taboo to talk about. I honestly think we should talk about parental regret more instead of pretending that parenthood is perfect and magical.”
She went through a series of an emotional rollercoasters after being rejected so many times. She was crying, screaming, and eventually felt numb.
“My pain and my desires and my goals and my life were all dismissed because of a baby that didn’t even exist. A hypothetical person had more control over my future than I did.”
So many women echoed the frustration of not finding a doctor that would say yes.
