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Woman Refuses To Attend Baby Showers And Weddings For People She Doesn’t Hear On A Daily Basis
“It is extremely rude.”
A woman shares that one of the rudest things people can do to her was to invite her to weddings and baby showers after years of radio silence and the fact that they never really even got to know each other.
It’s Lanette Rincon, a wife, and mom from Colorado, who made a viral clip that actually resonates with many people. They found it burdening when they have to bring gifts as a requirement to attend baby showers and weddings. And these people “don’t make the effort” to be your friend.
Is it for gifts only? No, thanks.
Of course, there are exceptions for her family members or friends who live far from her. If time allows, she’ll try to be there for their events and only tell them she can’t if the schedule doesn’t fit.
“Do not invite me to baby showers, weddings, housewarming parties, etc., if you don’t invite me to movie nights, girls’ night out, dinners, coffee dates, lunch, etc.”
“Because it is extremely offensive to presume somebody wants to spend money on your life milestones without including them in your life’s progression,” she concluded her argument.
The simple reminder resonated with many others who find it tiring when they’re only wanted at events with gifts being the requirement to join those moments. One wrote, “Funny how I only get invited when my presence requires that I bring a gift.”
Another who’s just equally tired added, “I couldn’t have said this better! I feel this so deeply on so many levels.”
Of course, there are always people who want to share their happy moments with others and never have enough time to spend with everyone they know in their life.
The 30-year-old delved further into explaining why she’s done with this behavior.
“I heard someone talk about something similar a few years ago and it really resonated with me – it’s like a social media trait,” shared the business manager.
“I don’t ever hear from some people for a lunch or a coffee date or a girls’ night, but then I’m only invited to the big ones when they need the numbers.”
“If I don’t get an invite to regular things then it’s incredibly offensive to invite to me big things. If I’ve been invited and they wanted me to bring a gift, I probably wouldn’t end up going, and if I did I wouldn’t bring one, but it depends on the circumstances.”
“Recently in the last few years, I was hanging out with this person but then it soon turned to me actively trying to hang out with them and it not being reciprocated.”
She continued, “And then when it came to a big event – like a wedding or a baby shower – that they needed the extra numbers for, I hear from them.”
“When you show up to that wedding, for example, you feel awkward and don’t know how to talk to them and then you end up in a tricky position. Or when people ask how you know the bride it gets awkward.”
Lanette quickly addressed how she views friendship may differ from others, particularly on attending big events. She shared, “I think everybody has their own level of boundaries and self-respect.”
“People have their own image of what a friendship looks like and it’s all personal preference.”
