People Share 17 ‘Red Flags’ In A Relationship That People Think Are Good

TV shows, books, and fictional stories that revolve around romance and drama love to exaggerate about true love. But then again, they are fictional stories, set in a fictional world, and to dramatize things, the characters are given dramatic one-liners to lay down their loyalty to their partners.

In reality, however, you will find these lines corny. But that is okay if corny is where they stop because some of us love corny things. These people, however, talk about how what seems like a great, positive thing, is actually a huge red flag to be wary of on Reddit.

1.

“‘I’m so spontaneous, love a good time and carefree.’ = lunatic.” – Patient-Window-2328

2.

“Loving his mother a little too much.” – theforceisfemale

3.

“‘All my exes are crazy.’
‘Oh… sure. The common denominator there is you, though.'” – Vexonar

4.

“Parents have a key to their apartment or home. You are never getting privacy over there.” – inkwater

5.

“‘You are the reason why I’m happy.’
Yikes, how about one of the reasons lol” – curly-hair07

6.

“‘I need you,’ ‘I can’t live without you,’ ‘I don’t need anyone else in my life.’

Basically, any iteration of an over-devotion to the other person, aka love-bombing. Everyone needs some form of family, friends, hobbies, work-life balance, personal fulfillment, etc. You cannot sustain a healthy and happy life when your world revolves around one individual.

What I mean is when the individual cuts everyone else in their life off, friends, family, any semblance of their own life. The “I need you” variations just open up the danger of codependency and control (the recipient feels responsible for the individual’s well-being).

Clearly, this is what makes it a supposed good thing when it’s actually a “red flag.” My husband has never once told me he “needs” me and he is incredibly loyal and has been for the last two decades.” – Fantastic_Lab4274

7.

“When they give you too much freedom. I had an ex that never cared where I went, who I went with, or when and never questioned how late I stayed out, and he expected the same from me. It started to make me feel like I wasn’t in a relationship at all and that we were just roommates that shared a bed. Plus if I got mad when he’d come home at a sketchy time from a sketchy place, he’d say that he never asked ME where I’d been.” – rumplestrut

8.

“Cracking jokes at your expense and disregarding your feelings as just being sensitive. He’s only a comedian when it comes to making fun of you, that sucks.” – princessmeghantwin

9.

“Yes! The “I’ll do anything for you” no no no! Have boundaries! I am not a ride or die type of person.” – kitkat616

10.

“The expectation to spend every free moment with someone is suffocating. Like, I like you too, but it’s OK if we don’t talk or text for a day or two or see each other for a few. It’s called “having a life outside of a relationship.” I say this as an introvert whose “life” is mostly work and being home alone but still. I need to be separate from the person I’m with sometimes or it does some screwy things to my mental health and makes me feel like I’m automatically in some weird, codependent relationship from the start. I’m not insulted if someone has interests outside of me; that’s a good thing!” – IzzyBee89

11.

“He’s confessing his deepest darkest secrets to me, WOW, he must really trust me, Well yeah, But also his deepest darkest secrets just revealed he has Major issues and makes him seem like a horrible person, RED FLAG, but poor him, he’s so misunderstood, I’m the only one that can understand him.” – takemetothelostcity

12.

“Being the center of someone else’s universe (shudder). It seemed romantic to me as a teen; as an adult, I understand that it is generally a nightmare.” – hauteburrrito

13.

“When your partner never lets you pay for anything.” – YarnAndMetal

14.

“Someone who always agrees with you. They’re lying.” – sillynamestuffhere

15.

“When they constantly offer “helpful” but unsolicited advice on what you could or should do. From how to spend your money, to how to wear your hair, to what clothes you should be in, to exercise and weight loss. All under the guise of being helpful or concerned.” – iamthenightrn

16.

“When I was younger so many people told me that frequent fights were necessary and a sign of passion in a relationship. Now that I’m older I’ve come to find frequent fights often means partners are failing to communicate and things that could be resolved through conversation are left to fester until they explode into those fights.” – BeanJeopardized

17.

“Discussing your future baby names a few short months into dating.” – curly-hair07