Mom Invites School Principal To Shop Clothes For Her Daughter Who Had Been A 'Distraction'

Mom Invites School Principal To Shop Clothes For Her Daughter Who Had Been A ‘Distraction’

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Schools have stringent dress codes, and it is rightly so for these institutions to set up what they think to align with their value and moral codes. However, when a school has never set a dress code, to begin with, it is very unbecoming of the teachers and principal to single out individuals for how they choose to dress suddenly.

Especially when it’s just a tall 13-year-old who can’t help with wearing shorts when it’s warm or how she has longer limbs than her peers.

Dr. Catherine Pearlman brought to our attention how imperative that we see where the problem is here.


Pearlman, who’s a mom to a tall 13-year-old girl has received two notes that reminded her of how her daughter had dressed ‘inappropriately for school,’ and she’s just tired of it. Not to mention she came home with large mesh shorts that may not have been clean.

She’s had enough. She’s done her great part of parenting in making sure her child is well-dressed and get to choose what she likes to wear. So, Pearlman decided to reply to the school and invited them for a shopping session. She shared a post on Instagram of her daughter’s clothes and the following caption:


“Dear Middle School Principal: Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional thank you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god-knows-who and potentially never washed…

“To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.”


“Here are the specifications you have to work with. I wish you loads of luck. She is 5’7″ and 13 years old. Built more like her father, she has exceptionally long legs and arms.”


Pearlman continued to share her child’s fashion taste. Else, how dare a child has her own opinion in what she gets to wear to school?

“She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly. No item of clothing can have a logo visible because to her, that’s not cool. She will, however, wear any type of superhero, Green Day or USFL T-shirt if you can find them.”


Coincidentally, Catherine Pearlman is also the author of the book ‘Ignore It!’ She’s also a professor who excels in sharing parenting tips on her website, ‘The Family Coach.’ Needless to say, she knows what she’s talking about when it comes to child psychology and how to raise them into a happy adult with a great childhood.

Schools are allowed to have and not have dress codes like how they see fit, just like how we get to choose if people should take off their shoes when they come into our house or not. But to selectively single out young teenagers because how they dress up seem ‘inappropriate’ may actually mean those who really think they look inappropriate should be warned instead.

Fellow students share how they feel so discriminated against just because they’re women.

Apparently, it’s not the woman’s fault to be tall nor choosing to wear lightly during summer. I believe there are more important things to look out for at schools other than just being particularly strict about dress codes for tall girls.