Women
27 Creepy Things Men Do That Women Ask Them To Stop Doing
Help us feel comfortable around you.
If we want society to become a safer place for women, men have to learn behaviors that make women feel safe. It’s no wonder that women get nervous when they are in situations that can quickly become disadvantageous. So how can men learn to at least prevent women from feeling nervous?
On Reddit, women share their personal experiences on how some men were creepy to them and why it’s so. There are also ‘compliments’ and ‘flirts’ that really don’t fly because they are total red flags. From dating tips to just being generally awesome, if you’re a guy, don’t miss these!
1.
“Strangers complimenting me on my body really freaks me out. I also don’t like people commenting on my hair, but that’s because I’m ginger and I get a lot of sexualized comments.
I once got fed up and asked someone to back off when they were doing this. Tried to be polite but firm. He responded by graphically threatening to rape me and followed me for three blocks. Not the only time I’ve gotten that kind of reaction. When you say “you have a beautiful figure,” it’s not a confidence boost. I’m not grateful. I’m thinking of the men who have this kind of reaction lurking just under the surface of that complement and I’m wondering if I’m in a dangerous situation.” – zerassa
2.
“Liking every single picture with my face on instagram in a period of like 2 minutes.” – shy_raspberry
3.
“Calling them beautiful as much as possible. Once or twice is nice, if you know them, but if you don’t know the guy and he says it too much it freaks me out.” – toitnups
4.
“Catcalling.” – HoveringCrib
5.
“Flirting is fun, so long as you don’t “flirt” by asking me where I live, and if I live alone, and (as an ex-pat) if I know people in the area. If you want to chat, flirt, get to know me? Don’t start with the questions that set off alarm bells in my head.” – wanderingprose
6.
“While talking online and I say “I don’t know about meeting up” and their response is “You are more likely to be raped by someone you actually know in person.”
Yup… Not meeting up now.” – curious-lycanthrope
7.
“Following you to your car to get your number.
Don’t. Ever. Do. That.” – dadadawn
8.
“‘Jokingly’ using your strength to move me or keep me from moving. If I want to go home and you’re pulling me back I am not actually going along with it, you are stronger than I am and I literally cannot leave.” – esthermyla
9.
“Standing in doorways/blocking exits.” – justwannahelp722
10.
“When a guy won’t give up. He doesn’t even have to be physically present. Being an adamant d*** over text is enough to terrorize you sometimes.” – _blueracoon_
11.
“I’ve been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live. Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to “get to know me,” and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city. I weakly joke about it sometimes, but at the moment it really does make me nervous. I don’t know if I just look really unimposing (I’m an Asian woman but I’m taller than average?) but I’m not sure why it happens. Regardless, please don’t just grab random women, even out of friendliness, and respect personal space.” – kerbula
12.
“Wanting to go to a secluded location if I don’t know you well. People on Tinder would suggest going on hikes or taking a walk after dinner on first dates. Didn’t even cross their minds that I would not want to be alone with them on a date.” – jittery_raccoon
13.
“Driving really aggressively and having road rage. When I was younger and dating I had so many experiences as a passenger with young guys who were otherwise normal but really intense and scary when they got behind the wheel. It always seemed like a red flag.” – brazziere
14.
“Hitting on you in locations where you cannot escape (enclosed places like elevators, or workplaces).” – ImproveOrEnjoy
15.
“When I say I don’t like something, like something he said or did or joked about and he says, “you secretly like it :)”. That makes my skin crawl and alarm bells start going off. Don’t tell women what they like.” – novakanet
16.
“Touching you in any way without permission, even if it seems harmless to you. Unfortunately, that happens rather often in retail.
Don’t touch my shoulder when you talk to me. Don’t stroke my hair. Don’t caress my hand when you give me your money. Don’t touch my ass or my boobs or anything at all! Please respect my personal space. It freaks me out when male strangers come near me and touch me in any way.
It gets extra creepy when they start to compliment me and won’t stop trying to “befriend” me. Your compliment in those situations doesn’t make me happy, they scare me. I need to leave my work later and I am scared that you will wait for me outside and catch me.” – lavendelfee
17.
“Random touching and prodding. Had some guys in school that would just come up and poke you in the sides. Freaked me the f*** out.” – Internal_Bedroom_7
18.
“Blocking my path or physically holding me in place if they are not done talking to me. Basically, using more strength/size to restrict my motion in any way.” – uncool4skool
19.
“Breaking or hitting things out of anger.” – HectorIsMyHomie
20.
“Thinking ‘no’ isn’t the final answer. Believing that with a little more convincing and I’ll say ‘yes.’ It makes me believe you don’t respect me and worries me how far you will go after I say ‘no.'” – FrogInSnow
21.
“Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he’s a “nice guy.” Every guy I’ve met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn’t usually very nice. It always makes me wonder what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you’re nice? Prove it with your actions, don’t tell me repeatedly.” – ElectricPinkMango
22.
“Asking for way too much information:
Where I live (specifically – not just which city)/who I live with (oh, it must be scary living alone! Do you have any animals?)
Where I work/what hours I work…
Nearly wanting a schedule of my life in order to schedule a date
And then wanting to go on secluded dates or calling up to my work to try and see if we could meet for lunch because I wasn’t answering my phone.” – BeanieBlitz
23.
“More annoying than scary, but telling women to smile.” – ImproveOrEnjoy
24.
“Meeting me at my job and asking for my work schedule so they can ‘see me more often.'” – geebae513
25.
“Parking right next to my car in a dark and/or empty carpark. I’ve had this conversation with several girlfriends, but when I’ve mentioned it to men they had had no idea about what goes through our mind when we see that.” – Outrageous_Ent
26.
“Messaging you on a dating app, commenting on having found your profile and that they are in the same location as you; they can see you but you can’t see them. I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I’m not an anxious person but it felt really uncomfortable.” – elgrn
27.
“Choking during sex/being rough without asking. F***ing ask. It’s not ok.” – flaccidpedestrian
