Bridezillas. It seems that the idea of throwing one special day makes them think people are obligated to serve them. Some see this as an opportunity to gain fame and profit from friends and family members. Some lose people they thought were ‘best friends,’ and a rift is formed after hurtful words were thrown while preparing for the wedding.
It’s insane – a wedding party is one where you share your happiness with your guests. It’s a special day because people get to celebrate them with you, not because you became the lord over the people who got to enjoy the grace of one meal during your reception. What the hell were these brides thinking?
“When my friend was a bridesmaid, she received an astonishingly detailed itinerary of how to behave on the wedding day, with notes like “9:52 am: Compliment the bride on how she looks on this, the most important day of her life.” On the actual wedding day, the bride repeatedly got angry with my friend for not adhering to the itinerary. This was after several months of the bride expecting my friend to be available at a moment’s notice to take care of any wedding chores. They haven’t spoken since the wedding day.” – ChestnutMoss
“I couldn’t attend my friend’s last-minute destination wedding because I had to visit my dad out of state to handle hospice arrangements – he was dying of cancer. She threw an absolute hissy fit, attempting to guilt-trip me because I couldn’t afford to make two plane flights. That was the end of our friendship.” – theuncannyvalleys
“Bride was blonde. All bridesmaids except for me were brunette. She asked me to dye my hair brown for the wedding because she, “wanted to be the only blonde.” I suggested that instead I just give up my bridesmaid spot. Thankful to this day since I heard the dresses and bachelorette party cost all the other girls more money than I make in a month.” – kmmurky
“Friend from college. We spent three months planning her bridal shower. She was not at all involved. When she finally looked at the plans 1 week before the party, she said it “wasn’t what she’d had in mind.” She then delays the wedding, which every one of her 400 guests had already made travel accommodations for, so that she can have her dream bridal shower. To top it all off, she informed us after the ceremony that to save money, we wouldn’t be served a meal along with the rest of the guests. “You already had the privilege of being in my wedding, so, what more can you ask for?”” – ligamentary
“Not a bridesmaid, but my mom was a wedding photographer for many years. Long story short, the father of the bride had a heart attack and as he was being carried out on the stretcher the sobbing bride yells, ‘How could you ruin my wedding like this?!'” – remberzz
“This was my sister’s wedding so hold on tight. My sister had 10 bridesmaids. Most of them were her sorority sisters from college. They wanted to plan an elaborate weekend for the summer, while most of them were still in school without jobs. When I asked, “Hey, who will pay for this?” my sister got pissed that I even asked. When I also reminded all the bridesmaids them that our father who had stage-4 cancer wasn’t doing so well and that maybe the bachelorette/bridal shower should be close by, they all flipped thinking I was being insensitive to the bride.
I was promptly asked not to be a bridesmaid to my own sister’s wedding over these two things. I was fine with this as she was a bridezilla and I spent time with our dying father. He died 2 weeks after her wedding day, that he couldn’t attend because he was in hospice care one day before her wedding. To me, she put herself before our ailing father, and it still makes me mad.” – SashWhitGrabby
“I was almost in a bridezilla wedding… I had an ectopic pregnancy (baby attached to my tube, which then burst, and I almost bleed to death).. She got engaged shortly following my ectopic. When she asked me to be her bridesmaid, she told me that I would be required to wait to try to have another baby until after her wedding in 1.5 years… not because there would be a small child at the wedding, not even because she didn’t want me fat at her wedding, but because if I lost another child, it would take away from her engagement and wedding. I was so shocked I just declined and have never spoken to her since. UPDATE: My cousin is on Reddit! She wrote me a scathing email about how mean everyone was to her, and I needed to update this and tell everyone it was her second wedding and she wanted it to be special this around. Also I needed to defend her… instead Hi Jessica! Keep sending this to Grandma, I really don’t care!” – MommaBearJam
“A friend of mine in college was getting married at 19 because she was a super conservative Christian and she wanted to have sex. Between the time I agreed to be a bridesmaid and a couple of months before the wedding I lost some weight. She got super pissed at me because she wanted to be the skinny one on the stage and threw me out of the wedding party.” – Reddit
“My wife’s best friend is a florist by trade, gifted her services to decorate her friends wedding. (Big cost savings) Wedding goes as planned all is good. Afterwards bride & bride’s mom get pissy at florist friend who didn’t give a gift in the wedding card, “didn’t even cover her/husband’s plate.” Let’s conveniently forget the $1000 in floral products gifted to the wedding, it’s a rift that never healed between them since.” – Hard_at_it
“Friend asked me to be a bridesmaid in her shotgun wedding that was to take place in a little over a month. She has us order semi-expensive dresses, and they HAD to be altered to a certain length. Shoes had to be ordered. Toenails had to be painted a neutral color, and fingernails had to be French manicures. We weren’t allowed to paint our own nails-we HAD to get them done at a salon. Hair HAD to be done professionally by her hairstylist. And we were not, under any circumstance, to have bikini tan lines visible. Mind you; this was right after summer. I lived in an area where beach attire was usually the only attire, and everyone had visible tan lines.
I eventually had to tell her that I could not afford to have everything done professionally with such short notice. I would be happy to do my hair and makeup. My hair was so short I couldn’t do an updo. She told me her mom could pay, and then I could pay her back. That was the final straw. I sent an email to her telling her I could no longer be at her wedding. She was pregnant, about to get hitched, and now I was adding to her list of problems. I valued the friendship and told her such, but just couldn’t do what she was asking.
I hadn’t heard from her for YEARS. Until one day she sent me a message, asking for me to buy from her MLM campaign. FFS.” – killrtofujalapenobiz
“Day of the wedding, she informs me I need to dye my hair (and pay for it myself) because my hair color is too similar to hers and it would be distracting. ‘There aren’t enough redheads so I was thinking you could be a redhead.'” – ligamentary
“Not a bridesmaid, wife was a cousin to the bride. This happened a few months ago. Bachelorette party a few days before the wedding; my wife didn’t go but her sister and other family went. A couple of male strippers there, lots of alcohol. Suddenly bridesmaids realize the bride is missing. They find her in her hotel with one of the strippers… who happens to be black. She freaks and tells everyone she was raped. Cops come. Stripper arrested. Wedding canceled. Everyone feeling sorry. Detective on the case doesn’t believe her story and bride finally comes clean. Her mom and my wife’s mom still believe she was legit raped by the stripper.” – thegauntlet
“She wouldn’t let our friend who was on chemo to sit down after they all walked down the isle.” – CasuConsuIto
“Not a brides maid but one of the groomsmen. The groomsmen were forced to work through the entire post-wedding ceremony, cleaning up peoples sh** and trying to make sure things go well. When we tried to hide and take a break, we got yelled at by the bride and her mother to keep working. Needless to say I no longer talk to them.” – LordVeris
“I was in a wedding where the bride planned two separate bachelorette weekends for herself and got mad at anyone who couldn’t/wouldn’t spend two 3-day weekends at ~$500/each away from their husbands/kids/jobs. The week leading up to the wedding the temp for the big day was forecast to be a high of 10*F (February wedding, NE US). Bride was insisting on outdoor photos without coats “because we can’t hide the dresses!” Everyone, including the photographer, tells her hell no. Day of she pitches a fit when we refused to do more than one quick photo.
Afterwards, she stopped talking to 75% of the bridal party because of their refusal to accommodate her outrageous demands. To this day, years later, she still complains about how her bridesmaids ruined her wedding.” – Hexagogo
“My best friend just got kicked out of being a bridesmaid because she couldn’t spend the $1500 to go to the bachelorette’s party, all the other costs were killing her. The bride told her to take out a credit card to pay for it. One of our friends made the best comment over the situation: she (the bride) just did you the best favor ever kicking you out of the bridal party.” – awayfrommymind
“I’ve had colorful hair for years now. It’s quite the investment– I go to a salon to get it done and buy high-quality products. When my best friend asked me to be her MOH, my hair was neon pink. Three weeks before her wedding, she requested that I color my hair to natural color. I was SHOCKED. She offered to give me $100 to get it done (lol). I had justttt gotten my hair done (a plum/red color, quite tame in comparison to what I’ve done in the past)
If I had just randomly gone from brown to lime green out of nowhere I might understand her frustrations, but at this point, I hadn’t seen my natural color in like 3 years! I never changed my hair, we got into a screaming match at her bachelorette party and she drunkenly revealed that her mom hated my hair and would not stop bitching about it. We cried and hugged in the club bathroom and all was well. Her mom didn’t speak to me at the wedding and I’m okay with that.” – sweetvi0let
“I didn’t make it to the wedding. I was best friends with the woman, literally we did everything together. She assembled her wedding party and didn’t invite me. She threw me my bachelorette, witnessed my marriage, etc. I found out later I wasn’t invited because I was overweight and her mother thought that would limit bridesmaid dress choices and throw the wedding photos ‘off.’ At least I know, dodged a bullet.” – volcanicpale
“My dad had the audacity to die 6 weeks before the wedding, and she couldn’t understand why that superseded her wedding details for me. I met my husband at her wedding, haven’t spoken to her since.” – J-squire
“There were a lot of moments. One of my favorites was her bachelorette party was the same weekend as my birthday. We weren’t allowed to do anything for my birthday at all on the trip. Not even mention it. On my actual birthday, some of my friends got some balloons and a little cake from the hotel. They tried to keep it a secret but Bridezilla came in the room, saw everything, didn’t say a word, and walked out. She was pissed because our friends wanted to do something small for me on my actual birthday. It was fitting that the wedding ended in huge family drama. I definitely stopped talking to her after the wedding was over.” – rational_adult
“My ex-best friend was a trip. This story is just one of the many, many reasons I no longer speak to her. She tried to make me and another bridesmaid walk down her outdoor, uneven, tulle-covered aisle WITHOUT GLASSES. She told us the morning of the event, so we didn’t have any time to get contacts or anything. She threw a near-hysterics fit because she was convinced that we would “ruin the aesthetic of her wedding.” I told her that she would have a single groomsman walking that aisle if she made me walk without them. She started bawling but her mom was able to get her calmed down enough for her to agree to let us wear our glasses so we could actually make it down the aisle in one piece. (Her mom essentially said that she more skinny and beautiful than either of us and no one would be glancing at her bridesmaids anyway because we aren’t important)” – Suitcaseofsparks
“Planner here – I’ve seen some sh**. Bride invites ex-boyfriend to wedding because “he’s just a really good friend.” During reception her husband of 2 hours goes to the bathroom, she plants a kiss on him. Notices I saw and promptly reminds me to mind my business. At the end of the night, catering informed me they hadn’t settled their bill. If they didn’t get payment that night there would be an additional fee charged. I run outside and let them know before they drive off. Two days later I get a call from groom who informs me the bride is extremely upset with my “unprofessionalism” and wants a refund. She wasn’t happy that I “made a scene” by running outside to tell them about the bill, in an effort to save them from additional charges. I asked him if he was aware of the scene she made when she kissed ex BF on the dance floor while he went to the bathroom. He hung up.” – Imabigdiva
“Not a bridesmaid, but a witness to one. The bride got walked out on by her entire bridal party, except her maid of honor. Of course, it was because no one loved her, and everyone wanted to ruin her day, not because she ripped a bridesmaid’s dress from the neck down, in an open area, because it was too white… it was the dress the bride insisted on all the maids wearing.” – BARDLover
“She asked 16 girls to be bridesmaids. In the year and a half between the engagement and wedding, all but 6 dropped out (3 were her sisters). She wanted 16 separate shades of blue and 16 different styles of dresses for each bridesmaid then threw a fit when the store didn’t have that many options. She demanded everyone pay for a week-long bachelorette party in Vegas (including her share) and then got mad when some people opted out (I was a single mom/college student at the time). Her parents gave her a $20,000 budget and she ended up spending $100k and demanding they pay for it- they took out a loan they are still paying off. She wanted everyone to have the same shade of hair so she asked the two blonde bridesmaids to dye their hair (they declined). She paid for nothing for the bridesmaids (traditionally the brides pay for something- the hair/makeup or the dress) but demanded we purchase specific shoes, jewelry, dress, etc plus hair and makeup. And stay the entire weekend at the hotel she was getting married at. All told, costs for the wedding- not including a gift- were well over $2k per bridesmaid. This was mostly amongst college-age women in a poor/middle-class area. She also had three separate engagement parties/bridal showers.
Final straw for me was when she demanded to see my toast a month prior so she could edit it. She ended up rewriting it totally.” – hotel_girl985
“Picked $400 bridesmaid dresses. Destination bachelorette that cost over $1200. Insisted on a super expensive spot for the bridal shower. Registered at William Sonoma. I was a college student with limited funds. But managed to pay for all this crap and give a gift. A few minutes before the ceremony, when she screamed at me for like the 500th time that day, I snapped and told her either she cut her sh** or I was getting in my car and going home. She cut her sh**. The rest of it went fine.”
Bonus points: her husband forgot his entire f***ing tux and didn’t figure this out until a few hours before the ceremony.” – Notatumor1990