Happiness
People Shared Reasons Why They Love Staying Single
“Learned to love myself.”
People like correlating being in a relationship with butterflies, pink colors, and the happiness of finding your other half. But those who’ve been involved in one know that there’s usually a lot more at stake in a relationship, and most of the time, people don’t expect just how much more things you have to put into it to make it works. And you’re probably sacrificing way more than you’d ever thought, especially when you catch up with your single friends.
The perks of being single are really all about not tying yourself to anyone’s expectations and existence. These people couldn’t help but rejoice in all the time they had for themselves and not having to be so stressed at the end of the day to get back home on time. Others get to spend time for self-improvement and pick up their hobbies again, and can’t recall when loneliness makes them hate their situation.
1.
“Not having to remember trivial dates, buy extra gifts during holidays or for specific ones, not having to justify my purchases, share food, decide on food.” – UBootCaptain
2.
“I was engaged but broke it off in July after putting up with a lot of disrespect from him and his family. I had quite a bit of money saved aside for our wedding but now I can spend it on things I’ve wanted for a very long time. I am finally taking care of myself and learning more about who I am as an individual instead of being someone’s fiancé.” – celestialnight994
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“I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to stay up late, I can. If I want to go to sleep early, I can. If I want to sleep in, I can. If I want to wake up late, I can. If I want to buy that xbox, PS, Nintendo, or upgrade my PC, I can. If I want to play video games, I can. If I want to watch a movie, I can. If I feel like watching tv, I can. If I feel like listening to music, I can. If I feel like reorganizing or redecorating my apartment, I can. If I want to go out to eat, I can. If I feel like cooking something at home, I can. I can choose how I use my time. I can choose how I spend my money. I can choose how I save my money. Do I feel lonely? I’ll admit it, sometimes I do. But I have good friends. If I feel like hanging out with my friends, if someone wants to hang out with me, I can. If I don’t feel like going out, I can stay home.” – photon3on
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“Learned to love myself without needing anyone else’s words of affirmation after being single for the first time in a few years.” – FinalTourist
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“Got off work at an indecent hour? Don’t have to sneak into bed and then have an awkward conversation that I’m too tired to have when I wake them up and they ask what time it is, and why I’m so late, and what kept me, and how was my day when the only thing I want to do is close my eyes and rest.” – DomLite
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“I can hook up with whoever I want. Flirting is soooo much fun. Plus the possibility of being in a new relationship is something to look forward to! Fantasizing about dating the people I get crushes on is almost more fun than actually following through with them. Plus my time is MY time. No one else’s. I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want! It’s fantastic.” – F22man
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“I can do whatever I want, whenever I want without checking in with anyone. Also no woman should have to be subjected to my toxic family.” – yeetg**mcnechass
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“God, I remember rushing home every day because if I was even 5 minutes late getting in the door, I would have to explain myself. Then I would walk in perfectly on time and he’d still be in a horrible mood. Now I can spend the whole day driving around doing absolutely nothing and I don’t have to explain it to anybody and going home is actually an enjoyable thought.” – Seducedbyfish
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“I can eat a pb & j or popcorn for dinner if that’s what I want.” – nomination
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“I’m not a huge fan of the single life but in the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I always felt like I needed to check my phone 24/7. I like being able to just chill and play videogames, watch a movie, hang with friends without checking my phone consistently.” – RealECW
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“I don’t have to worry what I look like or what I’m wearing while I’m just chilling on my days off. Hair up in a messy bun, no make up, no pants, no problem.” – not-a-real_username
12.
“Honestly, being single allowed me to put more focus on finishing my undergrad degree, which I just did this last week!” – njf175
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“I have been single most of my adult life and I find it really annoying when I am living with a partner. I had a partner who snored and that really affected me with the lack of sleep I was getting and you get set in your ways then all of a sudden you have someone wanting you to do a whole bunch of things another way. I dont necessarily prefer to be single but I I prefer to live on my own.” – 11015h4d0wR34lm
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“My apartment is clean and neat and most importantly, 95% empty.” – TheCrimsonChariot
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“I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want. I can also leave something on the table and come back two weeks later and it is still there.” – GoatSculpture
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“Wanna watch a movie? I pick what I want and don’t have to debate what we’re both in the mood for, or whose turn it is to pick, or “I don’t like scary movies, let’s watch a rom-com!” Wanna get something to eat? I go get what sounds good to me and don’t have to hem and haw for an hour over what sounds good to you but not me, then me but not you and then finally settle on something that neither of us really wants but we can both deal with when all I want in this world is sushi. Wanna sleep till noon on my day off then get up and just play video games all afternoon? My choice and mine alone and nobody can try to shame me for it, or complain that I’m not paying attention to them. Having an off day and don’t feel like talking at all or expressing my feelings? I don’t have to talk to anyone or feel pressured to “open up” to them because we’re dating. I can just take a “me day” and never open my mouth, never get out of bed, or whatever I feel I need to do to feel better.” – DomLite
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“All of them. I am single for the last 10 years +-. All my money is mine. All my time is mine. All my attention goes where I want it to go (minus distractions, hi Reddit). In my view the planet is over-populated, so there is no serious thought of reproduction. I just try to get fulfillment in life.” – Nope_Nope_Nope_0
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“Stuff in my home is exactly where I left it. I’m not actually single but this is what I remember from when I was. Other people have all kinds of weird habits that make your life difficult. Want to wash a pan? Someone’s filled the sink with plates! Go to collect your keys? Someone couldn’t find theirs and has borrowed yours and thinks they may be in their coat pocket! Wheres the coat? They can’t remember!” – bsnimunf
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“I have so many hobbies. When I was in a relationship I couldn’t do any of them. Hell, I even had a hard time making time for school work. Now that I’m out of a relationship and COVID has limited social gatherings, I’ve been playing music, painting, coding etc. Literally today I finished designing and making the wooden case for some headphones I’m making.” – artisnotdefined